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I am not alone

If you are struggling with bullying, know that you are not alone! Read the stories of your peers in this book, and share your story with us by clicking on the button below. Your words can give comfort to others.


Kirk Smalley, thanks for coming out to Belle Valley to speak to us and share your story. It was truly an honor to have you and we are blessed to have learned so much from you! I appreciate you standing up for the silent, and for spreading the word and the motivation to others to stand with you. And thank you for the extra bracelet you gave me for my son. I talked to him today, after your presentation and found out that you came to his school not even a month after his own suicide attempt. That just gave me chills! Thankfully he is still with us today, and he's doing great. And now he knows that you have his back! Thanks again!

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Emily B.

On Tuesday I reached out to Kirk Smalley and told him what I've been through. I told him things that I never told anyone before. He messaged me back saying sugar you have to stay strong and we can beat this together! Come up to me tomorrow and let’s talk ok? So I did. He hugged me and told me to stay strong, we can get through this together and that he needs me here and he can't lose another one of his baby’s. He made me promise that I wouldn't do anything to hurt myself. The part that got me the most though is that he told me that he loves me. He loves me and he doesn't even really know me. I was crying and the only thing that I could manage say back is I love you to. He is my hero and always will be. Stand for the silent. I am somebody. lbL♥ Thank you so much.

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Gabi O.

Kirk, I read your post about your Ty and it makes me cry every single time. I don't know if you understand how much you are helping me by having a community that is not here to judge me, about what I say or what I have done, or what I have been through but just to help me get through it. That last post you put about your Ty talking about Christmas...over 50 thoughts are going through my head saying I should rethink what I want to do You have truly changed my life about judging people, bulling people and telling people what’s going on. I know you lost your son and that’s the hardest situation a parent can go through but I think you need to know you have saved over 100s of peoples lives telling them about Ty’s story. Thank you so much, happy holidays and god bless.

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Anita K.

Thank you so much for all of your motivation and help. Your speech to my school really touched my heart and made me realize that there is something to live for, in my life. For a while I didn't know what to live for. So thank you so much. Anita K.

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Emily K.

I would like to thank you and what you have done for kids that get bullied. I used to get bullied by kids in school or by even my brother. I started to cut and various things. I could honestly say that suicide had crossed my mind a couple times but I eventually saw what you were doing for kids and the things that standing up to people can do. I stood up for myself, got help and have been clean and better since. Your story is so inspirational and needs to be spread. I am happy that I saw this and have learned about all the things to do. I have stood up for kids that get bullied because of what happens to kids who don't have the support. I know I felt desperate for escape when it was happening to me. I don't want to think that other kids could feel that bad so standing up is the best thing to do! I love what you have done in memory of you son. You are an inspiration to all.

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Kirk, I read your post about your Ty and it makes me cry every single time. I don't know if you understand how much you are helping me by having a community that is not here to judge me, about what I say or what I have done, or what I have been through but just to help me get through it. That last post you put about your Ty talking about Christmas...over 50 thoughts are going through my head saying I should rethink what I want to do You have truly changed my life about judging people, bulling people and telling people what’s going on. I know you lost your son and that’s the hardest situation a parent can go through but I think you need to know you have saved over 100s of peoples lives telling them about Ty’s story. Thank you so much, happy holidays and god bless.

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Today was the first time I have seen your school presentation. It really hit me but, it made a huge change in the way I saw my life. I had been struggling to stop myself harm, and at one point I had over 100 cuts on my chest, where no one could see. I had a plan to take my father's pistol and shoot myself, I felt so trapped and alone, I was afraid, and eventually I couldn't even figure out what was making me like that. It was all such a blur at the time. I was always called emo and ugly, as well as a whore and faggot. I never even knew why. But after seeing your presentation I felt so happy to see that people really do care, even if they hardly know me, they care. I threw away my razor the second I got home and I haven't cut in a month but that thought had been running through my mind, and it’s a relief to say it’s gone. So I wanted to thank you, all of you in SFTS. You showed me that I am not worthless, and that I am somebody. Keep doing what you do, and show more kids that it's going to be better, and change the world. I know we can all do it. My name is Heather, and I can proudly say I will never commit suicide, and I will stand for those who can't do it themselves.

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Madi N.

I can never thank you enough. You spoke at my school today, Holmes Jr. High in Cedar Falls. I wasn't at the assembly, but my friends said it was really an honor to hear you speak. My whole Jr. High, I've been bullied. And because of that, I cut myself. This assembly has inspired me to stop, and help others like me. I had a plan. I threw away my razors. Thank you. I will ALWAYS stand for the silent. My principal, Mr. W., was supposed to give you a poem I wrote about your organization. If you didn't receive it, or something, let me know. I will gladly send it to you. Thank you, so very, very, much. God Bless you. lmL,

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I really love your program and I fully support you and everyone else that is a part of it. Stand for the Silent has changed my life in many ways. It has given me the courage to stand up for myself, my friends, and my family. I used to get bullied a lot at school and sometimes I still do, but I just move on. I have thought about what would happen if I committed suicide and it’s not good. It would hurt others more than it would hurt me. I realized how many people that love me in my life and thought, ‘what reason do I have to do this to myself?’ Because of your program I have helped others get through bullying and even saved lives. Thank you so much for doing this, it always starts with one.

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Baylie P.

I truly thank you. You mad a big difference in my life. I'm so so sorry about your son Ty he is such a cutie he certainly had a bright smile I saw his picture when Kirk came to Gilbertville Iowa, you were at Don Bosco I was there at 7pm. I'm the girl who's mom came and talked to you I'm the one who self harmed and had an eating disorder do to bullying, I have thought about suicide many times, I have had it planned out and everything even the date it's October 24 this year that would be actually tomorrow. You came today it actually saved my life, You, You saved me. You are my true hero not batman or Spider-Man you Kirk Smalley, and Laura Smalley. It's a great blessing that you have came, I'm no longer gonna be that girl in the corner not talking to anyone because I AM SOMEBODY. I then again thank you so much, I'm praying that you are making safe trips for Your family. I love you. Thanks for saving me, and others.

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I'm 14 years old. I have been lately thinking about suicide. I have been bullied since third grade. And I am now in ninth. In March I lost my best friend. She died in a fire. That triggered my thoughts. I wanted to take my whole bottle of anti depressants. I wanted to stop the pain. Today, August 1st, Kirk came into my school. This seminar made me feel not worth less. Today I came home to my mom and told her. She is now getting me help. Thank you. You gave me the support I need. ♡ I AM SOMEBODY lmL

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Thank you so much for coming to our school today (Sherrard High School). My name is Jeanna Mae J. but everyone calls me JM. You saved me. I was planning to stab myself with my mom’s favorite knife (it’s the sharpest) this weekend. I have just been having a hard time trying to keep clean from cutting and I just felt like no one would care if I died, but while listening to your story, I felt very sorry for you and I didn’t want that to my family. Thank you for saving me and my family. Ty would have been very proud of you. xoxox

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Kylie Ann

Hey, Mr. Smalley. You came to my school (Longfellow) two years ago. And your story still sets on me sometimes. I've attempted suicide five times now, and still continue to cut. Not a day goes by that I don't try to stop for Ty. Come back to Norman soon.

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Cora Jane Sly

I go to SEP and last Thursday you came and talked to my school. I just wanted to say thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking time out of your day to come and talk to us and share your story with us. Your message really hit home with so many kids, especially me. I have been bullied my whole life, so I completely agree with all you are saying. I was even bullied in pre-school/daycare. I remember one time this kid was really mean to me and I bit him on the forehead! My mom said he had it coming because I've never been one to do that…this was in pre-school by the way! I don't know what got into me. I guess it was just too much. Everyone says how insecure they are, but I really feel like I'm more insecure than most. I have a wall that hides the hurt, like you said, people that frequently get bullied figure out a way to hide it, and that's me. When people complement me, I feel like people are just showing pity or lying to me. I believe it sometimes, from the people I love. I've always wanted to take and stand, and I've attempted many times, but I was always so scared I would draw attention to myself and get bullied. But you've given me the courage to show people that bullying is NOT okay and I AM somebody and I CAN make a difference. You have really opened my eyes and so many others. It scared me when you said 1 in 4 had a plan, but even more when I realized I was that 1. I've never attempted it or intentionally hurt myself, I could Never do that...I'm not that kind of person, but I've thought about it. I know I'm not alone, and I know I always have somewhere to go. I have so much respect for you and what you do. I can't imagine losing a loved one and reliving it every day just to get the message across that bullying is unacceptable. My heart goes out to you and your family, and Ty will forever be loved. May Ty rest in peace alongside God. He must be so proud, looking down on us and seeing His daddy traveling the world and one step at a time, making a huge difference. God Bless, lmL, love always.

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Your story today really touched my heart and soul. I felt like I was not worth anything a few years ago and had actually thought about doing that same thing. I still have thoughts about it but in February I came to realize I couldn't. My mom tried to commit suicide when I came home from wrestling and I almost lost her. I don't know what I would have done if she died and then I realized that that is how She would feel if I went through with my thoughts. Hearing your story about your son and all those others really opened my eyes and made me think of my brother and future kids. Thank you coming to speak at sergeant bluff. You and your wife are doing a wonderful thing for this country and the world. SFTS lmL

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Ryleigh T.

I still remember the day when Kirk Smalley came and talked to my school and I was in the front row with my friends and at first I was just paying attention and then once Mr. Kirk Smalley started talking and talked about his son's story it got to me. I remembered all the times I wanted to end my life to but just couldn’t because I thought of all the people that would miss me and just started crying. The message really did come to me. I was like how did they know I was going through this because just then before the presentation I wanted to cry my eyes out because of a bullying incident that had happened to my friend and me and it was just so powerful to know of someone who ended their life because of some bully.

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Peyton S.

Fassett Middle School 7th grader here. Thank you for today it changed my life. I was bullied in 5th grade and I threatened to never come to school. I threatened to cut to do stuff to myself and l want you to know your son is a incredible young man. No matter what anyone says your family is in my prayers and thank you for changing my life.

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I am forever changed by your words tonight. You have saved my life Kirk and so many in that room. You believe in us and love us and all I have to say is that I will not stop and I will not let one person hurt me, tear me down and tell me I’m WORTHLESS. I will stand for the silent. I am somebody and I believe in you, and everyone that spreads the word and anyone that has ever been through anything as bad as you experienced. Thank you so much ♥

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Kiara I.

You saved my life,

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Dear Mr. and Mrs. Smalley, My Name is Rebecca I’m 22 soon to be 23 I understand with every fiber of my body what it means to be bullied I was bullied from 1st grade all the way up until I dropped out in 9th grade I was bullied from students and teachers I was bulled at home still to this day I am bullied I tried more than once to take my own life I spent many days sitting outside with my dog on-top of her dog house asking god why he put me here what was the point I was 7,8,9 asking those questions I tried to stand up for myself and kirk your right the second guy always gets in trouble I was taught school is supposed to be safe but for me it was a living hell I’m sorry this is a little long but I wanted to say these few words from the bottom of my heart I do not know you all nor had I ever meet Ty but your son must have been a hero... and so are y’all thank you for everything you do every day it means a world to me and I know everyone else feels the same. lmL much love and respect.

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Diamond K.

You truly changed my heart today at that assembly! God has definitely anointed you! You spoke into my life and I will never forget you! I am going to stand for not only Ty, but for Hydro-Eakly! It's amazing what you are doing and God has his hand upon this whole thing! When you knelt down in front of me today I knew right then that I had to step up as a young woman and STOP ALL OF THE BULLYING! The confirmation was when you gave me the bracelet you were wearing on your arm during the video! I broke down and it was a breakthrough for me! One of my friends committed suicide from bullying and today made me realize that I had to fight for him! I love you!! And I'm keeping my promise and I'm standing with you! lmL forever! ? ♥

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I know this isn't exactly what this is for but, Kirk's presentation at my high school in Lincoln, NE hit close to home for me. I've had 2 friends take their own lives because of bullying. I've thought about suicide myself, couldn't go through with it (thank God) but I resorted to cutting myself. I was crying at the assembly, I'm standing for the silent lmL

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I know this is kind of taking up your time, so you don't have to read if you don't wish. You saved my life. You really did when you came to Sentinel School in Oklahoma. I had a plan. At the end of that day, it was going to happen but you did it. You are the reason I'm still here today. I'm one of those kids that get bullied because I'm a kind of nerd. I'm a big fan of Animes, and Manga, Video Games, and most of all RPG. So, I was picked on for it. I could usually shake that off, but it was worse for me at home. I'm beaten by my brother, and my dad doesn't help any, so I use the internet to escape. Finally, it was getting worse at school... So I decided it. I had finally given up. Your presentation that day though got me back on my feet. I'm now a novice writer in Junior High, planning to go to college to be an author. You, Good Sir, are making a beautiful movement. lML

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Kiara I.

Thanks for saving my life.

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Diamond K.

I'm a cutter. I have depression. At a few times in my life, I have considered suicide a very reasonable option. I attend Lincoln Southeast High School and what you said today about what if a sibling of yours killed themselves really spoke to me. My biggest fear is that my little sister will be like me. She's the only reason I'm alive. I remember waking up one night, and wanting to die. Nothing in particular happened. I just had had enough. I went into the kitchen, opened up a drawer, and pulled out a knife. I put it to my neck. It was really cold. I remember that most. I don't remember being scared. That's what's most weird to me. Anyways, I heard my little sister waking up and walking around. I put the knife down and went back to bed as if nothing had ever happened. I was young when this happened. Maybe 12.

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Nicole A.

I've never told anyone this before. I’d like you to keep it confidential. The only reason I'm telling you now is because I'm getting better. I still struggle, but I'm getting better. What you said today hit me on a personal level and if what you do amounts to nothing else, know that you've changed my life. Thank you for doing what you do. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. And may you precious son rest in peace.

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Hey, I would like to say that your story really inspired me and I would like to help stop bullying I have been bullied and I have done my share of bullying and I hate myself for it. I have thought of killing myself and I cut still to this day I cut sometimes. I don't want to but it helps. I am getting help for it now but I would like to say thank you, you made a big difference in my life. You are so sweet and to lose your son that, that would kill me. You have been so strong you and your wife and you are out there trying to help others instead of sitting at home and just crying and that is amazing. Just I wanted to say thank you for making my life different just thank you!! I am praying for you and your wife everyday for saving my life and just thank you again.

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Emily B.

I have bullied my whole life and before Kirk came to speak at my school I almost committed suicide. I know now how it feels to lose someone in your life – two people in one week now because my brother’s and my friend both committed suicide. My brother’s friend killed himself at sixteen on Jan 19, 2013 and a guy that went to my church camp was 21 and he hung himself on Jan 21, 2013. So it is really hard so I want to thanks SFTS.

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Shandra M.

Today, my life was changed. I go to Fort Towson School. I've been bullied. I once had a suicide planned all out. I forgot about that today. I'm going to take a stand for bullying!

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Harmonie W.

Your speech touched my heart and I know how it feels to be bullied and I had planned to take my life today but then I heard you and decided that I’ll just live through it and help out how I can.

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I am 13 years old, and I am an 8th grader at Anne M. Dorner Middle Schoo where Kirk spoke on 12/6/12 and I just wanted to say thank you so much. You gave me a different way to look at life. As of 12/5/12 I was searching the Internet for ways to take my own life. I just wasn't happy enough and I'm still not but you guys gave me an incentive to live! You showed me what it was really like for a family to lose a child in such a tragedy and now I know what'd I'd put my family through. I just wanted to express my gratitude and thanks. You don't understand how that assembly saved me and now me and to other girls in my grade are going to start up a Stand For The Silent Branch at AMD. We're working with our guidance counselor to do so. Again Mr. and Mrs. Smalley I can't thank you enough for this. Also please don't contact my school about this email. It would be greatly appreciated it was just meant for me to say thank you. By the way if you were wondering I was in the 8th grade morning assembly on the right side second row aisle behind Yuki. The girl with the curly hair that was crying really hard. I'm safe and I won't be committing suicide anytime soon. I WILL take a stand against bullying.

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Hello I just watched your assembly again on YouTube and I bawled once again I would just like to thank you for everything! It means a lot it has still impacted this cool tremendously. Thank You Kirk lmL

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I hope you know I want to see your assembly someday again and I will always take a stand against bullying Forever & Always I just feel so strongly about it now,. I hope you know that I Ty story has changed lives and always will I hope you know you have saved a lot of lives and I am thankful for that you saved my best friends life thank you so much Kirk ? lmL

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I am forever changed by your words tonight. You have saved my life Kirk and so many in that room. You believe in us and love us and all I have to say is that I will not stop and I will not let one person hurt me, tear me down and tell me I’m WORTHLESS. I will stand for the silent. I am somebody and I believe in you, and everyone that spreads the word and anyone that has ever been through anything as bad as you experienced. Thank you so much ♥

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dear mr. kirk i wanted to tell you thank you for coming to my school pleasant valley middle school you have changed my life i will pray for you and your wife i know that is hard to lose someone that you love . lml

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I am so grateful to hear your voice. I think it's important that people speak out about bullying and that schools don't just say "Kids will be kids." It's true, but you can do something. Bullying causes issues. I was bullied, I had waking nightmares, I was clinically depressed, and I had suicide all planned out. I heard your voice and I decided that others can't suffer the way I have. It's not ok. I have decided to take a stand against bullying.

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thank you i have been bullied all my life and i don't have many friends. i am different than most kids. i am usually sad but then i met i will call her rose(safety reasons) she was just like me. i helped her and she helped me. i have a few more friends and i smile a lot more. you have helped me because those things get to me and i hurt someone once i didn't kill them or hurt them seriously but i did make them bleed a little i was small then. you have helped me so much and i feel sad for all of the kids who have lost their lives from bullying. thank you.

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Hey Kirk, you came to my school on March 9 2018. I thank you for that because i see a change in our school already. I will keep spreading the word of how you stand. My friends and I have talked and we might do something to help with that. My other friend (name is Sonnie is doing a penny drive). So I was thinking maybe I could do something like make a lot of blue and black or blue and white necklaces out of string. I do not know yet but I will figure it out. I will keep spreading the word. You're awesome and amazing don't ever forget that. lmL!! I love you.

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You really have touched a lot of hearts , and taught me that I am somebody....Thank You..... Before the assembly I was honestly thinking of ending it...

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Your life story really got to me. I thank you for the message. I also thank you for coming. I have a friend being home schooled instead of taking her life.

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i was looking for some stuff about bullying because i'm writing an essay on it and i came across this website and i really like it it helps me know that when i see someone being bullied i have stand up them i know how it feels to get bullied i've been bullied before and its not fun i mean yeah i have self harm and i have thought about suicide but i'm happy i didn't do suicide cause i wouldn't be here today and be here with my friends and i wouldn't be here to write this message to you whoever is reading this thanks for this website

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you have helped me show kids in my school words hurt after hearing ty story and knowing mine i knew i had to do something i am somebody

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I grew up in the 80's in Southern California, First gen Mexican-American, always obese, never really fitting in with a crew or group of kids. I was bullied for being fat, sometimes constantly and other times not for long periods of time. I never considered self-harm or ending my life, the craziest thing I probably thought was maybe running away like in the movies I watched growing up. If anyone is reading this, I can honestly say, that once you mature and are older, you learn to ignore immature and ignorant people and as you can tell from my name, accept yourself. I am a father of 2 elementary age kids, and my heart breaks for all these kids stories and what they deal with, and I'm scared for my children's coming years and what they might go through.

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I first saw Kirk Smalley's presentation against bullying when I was 12. I had been severely bullied myself for years, and the one time I fought back I was given lunch detention for three weeks and my bully received nothing. I was about to give up, but Stand For The Silent made me realize I could use my experience to stand up for others who can't fight back, like I couldn't. I'm now a senior in high school, and I'm getting colleges like Yale, Dartmouth, Vanderbilt, and Emory messaging me saying they want me to apply. I turn 18 in a month, something I wasn't sure I'd live to see sometimes. The message this spreads is so important to me that, 6 years later, I'm trying to bring it to my school district. I am still bullied sometimes, and sometimes they are not punished, in fact just last year I had a stalker and the police were almost involved, but I know now I am NOT alone. I am Somebody, and I can overcome this with help from the right people. I want everyone else to have that same opportunity.

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You came to my school back in the 7th grade, Jarman. I was really touched, and ever since then I've been listen to people who've been bullied, cut themselves, started using drugs, and tried to kill themselves. I feel like its my mission now to stop bullying and prevent suicide. Everyone needs a chance to speak up, That's why i love you guys! Thank you so much! SFTS <3

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thank you for believing that i am somebody to be a hero thank you so much kirk.

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